Know your value: Self-worth
Weighing out the positives and negatives of any situation can help you to get a clear understanding of what could be the best choice for you. (sn: FOR ME, this is also after praying :) After all of this, you begin to ask yourself, how will this benefit me, will I be happy, will I be effective, influential, beneficial, will this be a "stepping stone" or a "set back?"
Knowing the value you have for yourself, your life and your accomplishments, will dictate how others perceive and treat you. If you settle for less, you can't complain when you are given the bare minimum. If you expect great things, then greatness comes to you. It all boils down to options because yes, I have high expectations but people have the CHOICE to meet and/or exceed them but I also have the CHOICE to accept what they have given me. There are options in every situation.
I believe knowing your standards, expectations, morals, standards and values will aid you in calculating your self-worth. Acknowledging is the first step, then moving on to step two of evaluation and calculation.. What's your self-worth? Are you treating yourself well? Are you treating others well? Are you demanding that others treat you the way you treat yourself or are you settling for less than you know you are worth?