I know personally, I have set goals for myself (graduate high school, attend and graduate from college, find a career, get married, buy a house, have children) seems so simple right???!!! But life isn't always that simple. They say if you want to make God laugh...make plans. That just means have goals set, things you desire to accomplish but be able to persevere when life takes its course.
No one really knows our personal trials and tribulations, it is up to us to continue to get up, dust ourselves off and continue to set goals even when they seem unattainable. Not many know I was on academic probation my first year of college, but I was able to turn my grades around and graduate a year early. Not many know I had to lose a lot friends before I was able to really understand the meaning of friendship. Not many know I was laid off and I had to work three jobs just to make ends meet but during that time I was able to complete my M.Ed by the age of 25!
The hard situations are what build great character...but only if you're able to endure! Don't look at where you were or where you are...Focus on where you're going and navigate a plan to get there.
I encourage you to not look at the negatives of a situation because we all have them, instead focus on the positives and the lessons you've learned. Envision all your desires and WRITE THEM DOWN! Create your own personal goal sheet. Writing things down holds you accountable. Refer back to your goal sheet occasionally, especially when you accomplish a goal and check it off. Continue to add to it and make sure you're specific. Where do you envision yourself one, two, five years from now?
Some of my personal goals:
Complete my second masters degree in School Leadership
Begin work on PhD in Educational Administration
Begin applying for Admin jobs in PA, MD, VA, NC
Buy my first home
Publish first book
Start Non-profit for young girls
Get Married and have babies :)