Don't say yes...when you really mean no

Just venting.

I am a firm believer that "my word is my bond."  I consider myself to be someone who is very loyal and a person that others can depend on.  With that being said,  I become easily angered when people tell me something and don't follow through, when they say they will do something and never come through.  I understand things happen, after all that's life.  But I also believe there is a a such thing as common courtesy.    Just tell me something came up and you are no longer able to do what you originally said.  I would understand and say thank you for letting me know.  Which brings us to the situation...

I asked a former employer, one whom I admired and was so grateful to have worked under them, one whom I felt I had a great relationship with to write a letter of recommendation for me.  I asked as of today at least 10 months ago.  The immediate response was "of course!"  You never want to be annoying or bothersome to someone you have asked to do something for you, but I felt compelled to ask again after two months.  "Oh yes, of course!  Stacy I'm sorry I've just forgot."  Understanding she is human and has her own life with its own trials and tribulations, I said "no worries."  I text her and tried to remind her nicely and she asked me to send her "talking points" which I sent immediately via email.  Two weeks passed and I emailed again, she claimed to never have received it and I forwarded the original email which she said she finally received and confirmed again she would write the letter for me. Another two weeks passed, which bring us to today.  Yes, I am still recommendation-less and I am FURIOUS!  I sent her a final email hoping she would redeem herself and it simply stated "If I don't here from you after this, then I will already assume the obvious.  Thanks anyway."  So here I am still upset because I don't understand why people say yes, when they really mean no.  Why agree to something and never actually do it.

A Frustrated Woman Of Her Word!


10 Random Things About Me

I was inspired to create my "randoms" list after seeing it on "Heart Flows."  Be sure to check out her blog :)

10 Random Things About Me (in no particular order)

1.  I think about food CONSTANTLY!! Yes, all day and all night and even while I'm eating :)
2.  I love to shop and believe accessories make the outfit
3.  I go hard for those I love and will often give my last to someone in need
4.  I love eggs and can eat them at any time of day.
5.  I love driving in pure silence.
6.  I like watching shows such as "Hoarders,"  "Locked-up Raw,"  and "My First Place."
7.  I secretly want to get married on a TV Show (so they can pay for the honeymoon)
8.  If I don't lay out my clothes/accessories at night, I won't be able to sleep.
9.  I laugh randomly to myself for no particular reason.
10.  I can't sleep with an open bedroom door.

Don't Judge Me :)


The greatest mother of all time died on March 9th!

My mother Kathleen "Kathy" Richards was such an amazing woman.  It is so hard to write anything about her because I feel it would never be enough, it could never truly match how I feel about her and what she means to me.  I am trying my best to hold on to: the Lord works in mysterious ways but its difficult not to ask the question why?

There was not a day that went by that I didn't speak to my mother, our bond was very strong and she knew me better than anyone else.  Our family unit was one many admired and we owe it all to her, she was the glue that kept EVERYTHING together.  Her laugh was infectious, her smile -bright, her spirit - warm and inviting, her style - impeccable, her attitude-BROOKLYN :)

I feel her presence everyday and I know she is with me.  This morning the very first song that played AT RANDOM was...Going up Yonder by Walter Hawkins.  Its kinda hard to not notice signs from God like that.  I cried like a baby knowing my mom isn't physically her but she is with me at all times in spirit and for now I find comfort in that.

I miss you mom.

Going up Yonder lyrics...

If you want to know
Where I'm going?
Where I'm going, soon

If anybody ask you
Where I'm going
Where I'm going soon

I'm goin' up yonder
I'm goin' up yonder
I'm goin' up yonder
To be with my Lord

I can take the pain
The heartaches they bring
The comfort in knowing
I'll soon be gone

As God gives me grace
I'll run this race
Until I see my Savior
Face to face

I'm goin' up yonder
I'm goin' up yonder
I'm goin' up yonder
To be with my Lord

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