Black & White meets Neon

I fell in love with this color combination. I wore an all black pant suit to work with a black & white striped shirt. I wanted to incorporate some color and I knew this necklace would be the perfect addition.  I really feel adding this statement piece really took this "plain" suit up one notch. Be daring. Mix pieces. Confidence is all you need! 


Will you make yourself a priority?

Priority is defined as "a thing that is regarded more important than another."  I have found that we are most willing to do for others than we are for ourselves.  We can offer words of encouragement to our friends, family and loved ones but often beat up on ourselves.  We are quick to be there when others need us but often are not there for ourselves. We often say "yes" to things we are asked to do not knowing that we are saying "no" to ourselves.

I encourage you to continue to do all that and more for others but don't forget about yourself in the process.  I can imagine this may be difficult for some, especially if you aren't used to it, but small changes are key.  Here are some things I do each day/each week in order to make myself a priority.

Will you make yourself a priority?

Each day... 
I take time to read something motivational.  I also post "morning memo's" on my IG (@ladystace)
I take time to listen to music that is good for the soul (Jason Nelson "nothing without you")
I reflect on the positive moments and learn from the rest

Each week...
I take MYSELF on a date (movies, dinner, book store, nail salon, etc)
I do things I like to do (watch the food network, blog, cook, go for a drive)

When you make yourself a priority, when you fall in love with yourself, it allows you to be "full" enough to give to others.  You can't give of yourself, if you are drained....


It's a lovely day...

Let the weekend commence... Happy to be enjoying this beautiful day with my love.  The sun is shining and spring is here. Going to bask in the suns rays before snow is scheduled to return next week.

My sweatshirt says "married to the beard" s/o to my handsome bearded husband. Pair it with fatigue jeans from Target. Tim's, gold chain and hoops and a denim best to take it over the edge.   Cute and edgy look to grab a bite to eat. 


Married & Dating...

Please don't let the title fool you.  I am so happy to be linking up with Miss Dre over at So She Writes for the series entitled Married & Dating.

I am so lucky to be married to my best friend and I am excited to share some things we do as a couple so that our love can continue to grow.

Dating is essential in your marriage.  You have to continue to do new things as a couple to keep that spark going.  Dating does not always mean you have to go out either, my husband and I enjoy watching our Sunday night shows together on the couch.  Just being in each others presence is sometimes all you need.  

I'm looking forward to reading all of the posts shared.  

Love is a journey that everyone should have the opportunity to experience 

Don't forget to follow me on IG @ladystace


Jockin' Jay-Z

I loved this dress when I first saw it on Beyonce. She has the ability to always look pulled together and as if it were effortless.  I wore the dress to dance the night away at a party. 

Replica dress that I paired with black shoe booties. Now that I'm looking I should have added the chunky gold necklace. 


Oil Cleansing???

I have been on a journey to improve my skin.  Some strange things are happening to my face and body as I approach thirty and I have to get things under control.

After doing some research I came across the oil cleansing method or OCM. OCM is using castor oil and extra virgin olive oil to cleanse your face.  Please don't knock it until you try it.  I honestly can say I love it. My face feels so good that I didn't even need to put moisturizer on afterwards.  Here is some information from acne.org on the process and other oils you can use as well. Try it and let me know what you think.
  • You take some of your oil blend and massage it into your face 
  • Then, you take a washcloth dampened in warm to hot water (depending on your tolerance--butdon't burn yourself!) and drape it over/hold it up to your face and leave it there until it's around room temperature. 
  • After you're done, gently massage the oil on your face again to free all of the trapped dirt and dead skin cells. Rinse off your washcloth, wring it out and steam your face again.
  • Depending on how freaked out you are by now, you can rinse the washcloth off and keep wipe again to make sure the excess oil is off of your face. Then, splash your face with cold water to close your pores and then pat your face dry.


We should all be feminists...

We were introduced to an excerpt of Nigerian writer Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie on Beyonce's song "Flawless."  This excerpt really spoke to me because it is the truth, it is my truth!  I have met people who are shocked that I am 29 with no children not that I don't want them.  I have been asked multiple times "when are you gonna have a baby?"   You begin to wonder why men and women aren't taught the same messages, why are their double standards in life?  Why have the negative depictions of men and women we see on TV become the norm?

I believe it is my purpose in life to mentor young women.  To tell each of them that they can have their own thoughts, be in charge of themselves.  Have their own opinion. Be free.  Be firm.  That it is ok to strive to have a wonderful, loving marriage but to be able to also pursue their dreams.  I believe you can have it all as a woman.  
Do not allow anyone to limit you and please do not limit yourself, ever!

We teach girls to shrink themselves
To make themselves smaller
We say to girls
"You can have ambition
But not too much
You should aim to be successful
But not too successful
Otherwise you will threaten the man"
Because I am female
I am expected to aspire to marriage
I am expected to make my life choices
Always keeping in mind that
Marriage is the most important
Now marriage can be a source of
Joy and love and mutual support
But why do we teach to aspire to marriage
And we don't teach boys the same?
We raise girls to each other as competitors
Not for jobs or for accomplishments
Which I think can be a good thing
But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings
In the way that boys are
Feminist: the person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes

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